October is Breast Cancer awareness month! This is something that is very dear to my heart. Six years ago, my best friend, Heather Marie Lewis Thomas, passed away from breast cancer. She was only 35 years ago. She was one of the best things God had ever created.
(This is a repost from a few months ago)Heather was the most beautiful, kindest, God-fearing woman I had ever known. She was such a lovely sight to see. I even remember what she was wearing the day I met her in college in 2003 in Casselberry, Florida. She had crochet dreadlocks; something at the time I had never seen before. She was wearing glasses and as she always did. She had on a flower sleeveless dress with a jean vest over it and she had a smile on her face.
She was sitting in the Pavilion in the middle of the college by the water fountain. And she looked at me and said, “what’s up?” we became friends instantly! She was always so positive, happy, and uplifting. She was my biggest fan. Always so supportive and she always knew the right words to say. She was one of God’s best creations.
The day I found out Heather died I remember crying uncontrollably. Almost to the point of not being able to breath anymore. I was so overwhelmed with grieve, heartache, and pain that my body just couldn’t handle all the emotions I was feeling.
Once I was able to stop crying; which took a very long time, I just shut down. It was like someone had an I.V in my arm and I was slowly slipping into a coma. I was out of it. I couldn’t understand why God had taken my best friend. The Christian God-fearing married woman with 3 kids. The woman that never complained about her illness. The woman who put him first. The woman who always believed in him. It was tough to swallow.
It took awhile but I realized she was in a better place and she’s no longer in pain. I was being selfish still wanting her here. Her cancer had spread to her lungs and then her brain. She was suffering here on earth and although she always put on a brave face and she never once complained, her time here was done. She’s no longer suffering.
I have never been one to question God but when Heather died I can say I wanted to question him. I couldn’t understand why one of the best people I had ever known could die at such a young age to cancer. She was a God fearing woman, a Mother of three, a wife, and my best friend. She was someone who never complained much, not even when she was going through chemo and radiation. She was simply amazing. To know her was to love her and she died when she had everything to live for.
I just couldn’t understand but I thought to myself, who am I to question God? I know he makes no mistakes and it doesn’t matter if I don’t understand; he does! I knew that Heather wasn’t in pain anymore and she no longer had to suffer. I can keep her memory alive and never forget the impact, the imprint she made on my life. When you remember what someone was wearing the day you met them, I can say that, you’ll never forget them!
Since her passing, no, since she was diagnosed, I started participating in the making strides against breast cancer walk. Of course I named my team after her. However, the first time I did the walk, she was still here on Earth. She was so happy that my sister and I participated. I wanted her to know that we supported her and we were there for her!
So, if there is a breast cancer walk in your town be sure to be apart of it. Most importantly, my beautiful queens, make sure that you are doing your monthly exams and if you are older make sure you get your mammogram. Early detection makes all the difference. We have to save our tatas!
If you will be in Orlando on October 27th, join the walk. http://www.americancancersociety.org