Good morning beautiful humans, Happy Sunday! Thank you for spending part of your morning with me or maybe night depending on where you live in the world. Welcome to Life of Lane, my life through words, pictures, and food!
Before I start I would like to say Happy Father’s Day to all of the father’s out there! Today is your day, do whatever makes you happy whether its playing golf, playing catch with your kids, drinking a beer on the patio, or sitting in front of the television in your underwear. I hope you have an amazing day!
A few months ago I wrote a blog called Black Women Matter. It was one of my more difficult blogs to write but I felt I needed to write it and I don’t regret it. Like I’ve said before, “Stand up for what you believe in, even if it means standing alone!”
I received feeback from the lovely @therealchiclife and it was such wonderful feedback that it inspired me to write this blog today. After she read my blog and commented she was telling me about the great men she had in her life. She had an incredible father, uncles, brothers, and a very supportive husband.
I responded to her that I had the exact opposite growing up. It made me want to share that I had absolutely no good male role models in my life growing up. I mean absolutely not one. I wrote a blog about my stepdad several months ago. He was an amazing man but he never actually married my Mother. I’m not saying he wasn’t a good role model because of that. I’m just stating a fact.
I watched my Mom struggle to raise the five of us without complaining. Meanwhile my Dad got remarried and didn’t seem to have a care in the world that his children down the street went without.
Its quite the reality to think that my Dad knew my Mom was struggling and he did absolutely nothing to help her. Maybe I don’t know the whole story but I know what I lived through.
I saw not only my siblings and I grow up without a father, I saw my cousins, friends, and acquaintances grow up the same way. A bunch of single family households with Mother’s working overtime to provide with no male insight to help out. Maybe from time to time one would show up. Some were abusive, mean, and others out of touch with reality.
Guess what? We all survived and we have God and our Mother’s to thank for that. We didn’t have male role models but in our case it was okay. Growing up with only my Mother as my support and guidance I turned out pretty damn good. So, my question today, for those of you that grew up in a single family household, did you have a positive male role model? If your parents were divorced, did your father or another male step in and show you how a man is supposed to treat his family after a divorce or still provide for this children?
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